It’s so much easier to connect with friends now, wherever they may be in the world, because of social media. However, this new communication tool is so powerful, that it comes with great responsibility in terms of not causing any misunderstanding among your friends through your actions in these sites.
In the cyber world, it’s easy for users to be tactless and conduct poor behavior in general. Even the most polite people forget who they really are in social media sites. However, one should behave in social networks the same way he or she behaves in any office; similar rules apply. While social media has allowed us to connect with friends with just one click, true friendships still take a long time to develop.
For casual associations, calling them friends seem to be rather unfitting, according to Rainer Waelder, a member of the Knigge Council of Germany. In fact, a person can converse with other people in online forums without having to be friends with them.
Furthermore, Sebastian Dramburg, an information technology lawyer based in Berlin, says that a user can reject a friend request on social media by adding a short message to that person, especially if that person is someone whom you might work for in the future. That short note can talk about how you only want close friends to be in your social media, and that usually works out and the person trying to add you usually understands, Waelder adds.
Thor Alexander, a social media author, says that a user doesn’t need to add all of the persons he or she knows at a professional level to his or her social media profile.
A social media user should just add people he or she is really interested in, not just adding friends to have lots of friends.
In another note, social media experts also advise users to double check what they post in social networks before they send it out. These messages, which can be seen by dozens of friends in just a short time, are usually seen as less important than emails.
But at least a few of these messages that you see in a day are just as important to you or to others, so you should be careful. If you make a comment and later find out it has a mistake in it, better delete it and rewrite the comment.
Do’s and Don’ts in Using Social Networks
The following are suggestions by experts regarding how to communicate and behave in social media sites.
1. During professional messaging, emoticons should not be used.
2. For distant associates, conversations that are too casual should be avoided.
3. Messages should not be composed in all caps or all lower-case.
4. In general, promoting one’s blog or business to your friends through social networking is unacceptable, because it will easily look like spam and so is blocked rapidly.
5. Personal topics should not be shared in public, private messaging these topics instead.
6. It’s not about the post but the reaction, if someone talks bad things about you in public, then you don’t have to delete the post right away. Instead, you can respond politely and wittingly.
7. If there’s an internet troll, the best thing to do is to discourage that person by messaging him directly, or you can ignore him. Attacking that person just gives him the attention he wants.
In general, most social networking sites, especially Facebook, lets the public see your posts. You can easily be unloved if you are not going to show your best behavior.